My twenties have been tumultuous and exciting, and quite a journey. My greatest success is living a life full of joy.
I am in a much better place now than I was at 19, but I have many of the same goals: to have a family, to make a good home for myself, to test the boundaries of my knowledge, to foster good relationships, to explore the mutable nature of my creativity, and to work towards harmony and balance in my life.
At 19, one of my favorite singers was Alanis Morissette, who seemed the epitome of cool. She’s about nine years older than I, and at the time I imagined myself to be something like her when I was grown up. Now that I think about it, I really do feel like the person I imagined (though not a bit like Alanis, to be honest).
A song that always struck a chord with me was “Unsent” where she listed past regrets about men in letter form. If I take out the regret, I get very a succinct description of how I feel about my husband.
“Dear Terrence, I loved you muchly. You’ve been nothing but openhearted and emotionally available and supportive and nurturing and consummately there for me… you were the best platform from which to jump beyond myself.”
I always felt that last line encapsulated security, and it’s so much better than I imagined. Thank you, Patrick!
Now that I’m twenty nine, I look up to… Tilda Swinton, Meryl Streep, and Helen Mirren. These ladies are significantly older than me, but I feel like they’re at the “next stage” of a woman’s life, and by golly they’re all fabulous!